WARNING - non payer and potentialy dangerous - Hampshire

[Cora]

Well this is extremely embarassing to type, having never experienced anything like it before with a client who seemed like such a gentleman!

Everything was going well, he asked if I enjoyed BDSM to which I replied 'yes, but I only do it with people I've known for a while'. In the bedroom, he became quite forceful - which I am ok with but some women may find intimidating. He asked for bareback to which I replied no way. He then asked for ***** (knowing that I don't offer this on half hour appointments and only ever at my discretion), I said no.

To cut a long story short, he pinned me and sodomised me. I made my protests very clear and managed to wriggle free. I realise I should have told him to leave at this point (hindsight is a wonderful thing)! Once he had stopped and I had calmed down we continued to play around and he pinned me once again, then very forcefully tried to fist me - this has left me inflamed and bleeding

When it came to payment (again, I don't know WHY I didn't request it upfront and I am kicking myself but to be honest the payment is the least of my worries at the moment) he asked if he could see me again on saturday and settle the payment - I said he would need to pay today (I didn't trust the man and had no intention of seeing him again). He said he would need to go to the bank, I asked if I could go with him - he refused. He asked if there were any cashpoints nearby, I said yes and gave directions but requested he leave something with me for him to collect (jacket, phone, anything he would want back) again he refused. This went in circles for some time and I suprised myself with just how firm I was with him but eventually I realised I was fighting a losing battle, and shaken from the whole experience I asked him to leave.

He is an older man (50's) with balding grey hair, glasses (rectangle in shape), about 5'6 with a very soft welsh accent and goes by the name of Alan.

I don't know what his car was but I think it was very dark grey and with a personalised numberplate ending in FFC.

Phone number - 0775***0648

He is on a very well known escorting site by the name 'oldnurse'

Sorry for such a long posting but I really want the women here to understand what this man is like and to stay clear at all costs!

ETA: Forgot to add, he said he was from basingstoke

[Penny]

Cora, so , so sorry to hear of your experience with this guy. I hope you are receiving medical care and are able to confide in close friend(s) who can be there for you.

Thanks for the warning, this is indeed a dangerous guy. Have you thought about going to the Police and reporting him? As what he has done to you is rape and assault, it was against your consent when he knew that you didnt provide that kind of service.

As you say, hindsight is a wonderful thing. Your experience is another good reason why us girls need to make sure we take the fee up front. He obviously had no intention of paying you at all.

Take good care of yourself and sending you hugs.

Penny x x x

[steve5]

Dearest Cora
Sweetheart im so sorry to read the message regarding the violent non paying i was going to say man( hes not good enough for that title) animal and i really hope life pays him back 10 fold.
I would agree with Penny a visit to the police cant do any harm who knows justice may be served. I wish you a speedy and full recovery and lots of love and cuddles.
I havent met you but just wanted to send my support and thoughts best wishes steve5

[Maddy]

Dear Cora..

Words are inadequate here...at least I will send you a very warm genuine hug.


Please PVT me his full number would be much appreciated...

xxxxxxxxx

[Cora]

Thank you x

I went to the station first thing yesterday and spent the day being poked, prodded, examined and interviewed. Got a phonecall about 8:30 last night to say they have who they believe to be the man in custody and he will be undergoing examination and interview also.

I have to go now but will send his full number to you Maddy

[barny]

Cora I dont know you but please accept my best wishes I am sure what you have done took a lot of courage and hopefully will result in no one else having to suffer from this animal. Thank you hugs and kisses xxxxx Barny

[slartybartfast]

Have you thought about going to the Police and reporting him? As what he has done to you is rape and assault, it was against your consent when he knew that you didnt provide that kind of service.

Penny's understanding of the law is 100% correct. I fear that the police/CPS will chicken out on insufficient evidence, but in today's police state, once they identify him, he'll get a crime intelligence note, which will tell against him in many ways.

[BurlesqueHoney]

Just spotted this and am also flabbergasted that you had to endure such a horrible situation. I am not normally very melodramatic but it really brought tears to my eyes that you got so mistreated. I am very impressed on how you tried to keep control of the situation. Yes hindsight is a great thing but we all can get caught out as we sometimes think it won’t happen to us.

And I am so incredibly proud for you that you had the courage to go to the police. That takes real guts as many ladies cannot face all the consequences and the possibility of their whole lifestyle becoming public. I reckon the guy was totally arrogant first to subject you to the assault and secondly his belief that he can get away with doing it and also not paying. Too many guys bank on the fact that ladies will not do anything about it. I also think that long term you have done us all huge service by perhaps stopping this guy from escalating his behaviour if he thinks he can get away with his crimes. A guy who killed a WG in Scotland refused to accept her boundaries and anally raped her (I believe) post mortem. I strongly suspect that he had on previous occasions mistreated other ladies and got away with it. While I hate the idea of outing anyone and discretion is tantamount this guy is a menace to society and especially us. If the police have found the right guy than I reckon his offence should be made as public as possible even if his family and his employers etc find out. His actions should be punished and ought to have a big impact on his own life and help to warn others of his sociopathic tendencies. Plus he damaged your physical and mental health not to mention livelihood and ought to be taught a lesson that his crimes can affect on his own life. And before anyone says that this would not be fair to his wife or children if he has some, well, sadly that is the impact of crime on everyone. People ought to be aware if they have married or are related to a monster!

Most importantly so, I hope the fact that you took some action and hopefully he will experience some kind of consequences will make you feel less powerless and give you some control back. Like everyone else I am sending you a hug and loads of positive thoughts/support!

[Cora]

He has been released on bail for 8 weeks while the evidence is examined and put together. The lady who examined me said that her findings match up with what I said he did, so I can only hope. Unfortunately though I feel this will be very much 'he said, she said'. I'll keep you posted on what happens. Thank you so much everyone for your support, it means a great deal to me. xx

[BurlesqueHoney]

Hope you don’t feel scared or worried about this guy being on bail. Do take double care but of course I am sure you know that and I really don’t mean to sound patronising. I appreciate that this might boil down to he said/she said but who knows if he has not got some prior form or more allegations brought against him in the past. At the very least, he has now come to the attention of the police. You have also taken back some power and control over the situation. He has to face up to what he has done. Someone like him who does not respect boundaries might otherwise escalate his behaviour plus his DNA will now be in the databank if it isn’t there already. Who knows – for all you know this can set a whole lot of stuff in motion. Quite a few sex offenders get caught by someone going to the police and their DNA then being cross referenced to other cases. As he is older he could have raped/assaulted ladies in the past!

I think you are very brave and I will keep my fingers crossed that you get justice!

[Mermaid In South-East]

That is truly dreadful, and it's funny how I also met a hideous person from Basingstoke.

I will have to take this number from you if that is possible???

You are amazing for having the courage to go to the police.

If anyone ever sodomizes me against my will, I will certanly do the same.

Really hope you are OK

XXXXXX

[Keane]

Cora,

There's nothing I can usefully add to the contributions above except to say that I'm sorry you've had to suffer this ordeal and I hope you are able to get over it soon. Let's hope that justice is done.

Yes, hindsight is wonderful, but at least you kept about as much control of the situation as you could possibly have done in the circumstances.

Best wishes,

Keane.

[Mermaid In South-East]

I just typed his number into my phone and he is already on there!! He is saved as `Timwaster 20', in a list of timewasters I got from another escort!!!!

[spider]

Just read your post. A big hug from spider for Cora.

[Cora]

Just a quick update, I had a visit from the police today to let me know that charges wont be going ahead. It's as I suspected really but I'm still dissapointed. He said that although it was clear this man had caused me some injury, and the proof is there that he was here and there was intercourse, it would be near impossible to prove it was non-consensual and would turn into a 'he said, she said'.. my services complicating the matter.

So please, please keep your wits about you. I would hate for anyone to have to go through a similar ordeal with that wretched man! I understand he had to spend a night in the cells and it has affected his personal life, so I can only hope that he will think twice before doing it again!

Thank you all for your support through it though,

Cora xx

[BurlesqueHoney]

I am so sorry to hear that there will no further action. However, I am still really impressed on how you handled the situation. And like you take some comfort that he did get arrested and spent time in a cell plus obviously his behaviour has come to light to those around him. And more importantly he is now a ‘marked’ man which means if he does try to attempt something like this again there will be something on record so he would not be able to get away with it again. Hope you have bounced back and feel alright now!

[slartybartfast]

This experience will leave you with a bad taste in your mouth, and a reduced confidence in the law, although you were realistic enough to anticipate the outcome.

In the old days of paper files, a "Not proceded with" would not be recorded in any central register, but now, with the ever increasing police computer empire, this evil rapist will be logged, and next time (and sadly there will be another time) he is less likely to get the benefit of the doubt, added to which, if you are brave enough to go into the witness box, it may be that you will be needed to give "evidence of similar facts" which might be just enough to have a jury convict him.

Be brave, be careful, and drive on!

[Keane]

Cora,

I, too, am very dissapointed (though not entirely surprised) that no further action wil be taken.

There is a small measure of satisfaction to be taken from the fact that his own actions have "affected his personal life". It serves him right.

[annaescort]

wishing you all the best so sorry this happened to you annaxxxxx