I tried to think of the questions that a first time punter might have before his first date and answer them below, based on my first time experiences:
Was the sex like in porn movies?
No. This was "Girlfriend Experience" so it was like the sex you would get
with a girlfriend (but without French kissing).
Did you feel "dirty" after having sex this way?
I thought I might feel this way but I didn't. It didn't seem much
different from having sex normally. I liked the girl and was attracted to
her, which helped. It made me feel like a man again, which is what I need to feel happy about life.
Was it like "making love"?
No. I don't think the girl was attracted to me at all - I really don't think I was her type. She seemed to enjoy having sex with me but she kept her eyes tightly shut throughout and I had the feeling she was imagining being with someone else. It was a kind of half-way point between masturbation and "making love", a kind of mutual masturbation "I'll stroke yours if you'll stroke mine....". That may make it sound clinical but it wasn't - she was a human being with her own mind. If you do something nice to someone and they smile that is a nice feeling anyway - you don't need to be "intimate". Sometimes it can be more like making love but it depends on how compatible you are with the lady you are meeting.
Is it always like this?
No, every appointment is very different, but this is pretty much a "standard" escort experience in my opinion. Sometimes you click with the girl and then it is just fantastic (but that can cause other problems), and sometimes it is just awful. I'm not intending to describe the "standard" experiences again in my blog but they make up about 80% of the experiences I have had with a new escort (but a smaller proportion of the total since I tend to re-visit when the experience is "fantastic"!)
Are the girls always nice and friendly like this?
All the girls I have visited have always been nice and friendly, even when
the experience itself was awful. Where a girl has been unfriendly it has been at first contact, so don't let that put you off! I once had a girl fly into a rage because I asked her in my email if it was possible for her to wear a latex dress she was shown wearing on her web-site (took 45 minutes to put on apparently, but I didn't know that) - I got a long email back telling me in detail how selfish I was! Needless to say I don't visit girls that have an "attitude"!
Did you feel like you were abusing the girl by having sex with her?
No. She was obviously quite comfortable with what she was doing. In fact the
way she used me like a human dildo made me feel a bit "abused"! I like to try and put a smile on the girl's face by taking care to press the right buttons - if she is aroused by that you have no reason to feel bad about what you are doing to her.
Was the girls orgasm real?
Seemed genuine to me. Most of the escorts I have visited at least get
aroused during sex (its more difficult to fake that - although the girl in
question could be dreaming of George Clooney rather than getting aroused by
you!). I don't worry too much if the orgasm is real as you can never know
for sure (and I'm paying so if the girl doesn't cum its nothing for me to worry about, as long as the girl is confortable about what she is doing) - the signs of arousal are more likely to be genuine so if you have got the girl aroused you are probably pressing the right buttons in the right way!
Was it good value?
Well it was £120 for the hour. That corresponds to 60 hours at the cinema,
so on that basis not very good value! But of course you can't make that sort
of comparison. I need to have sex and this is the only way I can get it
without having an affair and hurting a lot of people. I don't think £150-£200/hr is an unreasonable price to pay if the service is good - good escorts have a rare talent. Some escorts are single mums raising kids on their own by taking a few incalls while the kids are at school - they really need the cash.
Did you look down your nose at the girl because she was an escort?
She was a really nice girl so there was no way I could look down my nose at
her - would've happily taken her home to meet my mum! Anyway escorts are
selling sex and clients are buying, so we are as "bad" as each other.
Don't you feel a bit ashamed that you were paying for sex?
I never feel like I am paying for sex as such. Its pretty clear to me that I can get sex for free - its just that it comes with strings attached. What I am paying for is sex with no strings attached.
Didn't you feel bad that you were cheating on your wife?
I thought I would but I didn't. I hate all the lying and subterfuge - that's quite out of character for me - but the sex itself was fine. It didn't really feel like I was cheating as there was no relationship with the girl I was having sex with (its not always like this though!) - I was just finding a source for something that my wife was no longer providing.
Why didn't the girl provide full French-kissing?
I don't know for sure but French-kissing is very intimate and not many girls provide this service -its easier to find anal escorts than girls that kiss! When escorts do provide this service it is usually at their discretion (i.e. not if you have eaten garlic the evening before!). The intimacy of French kissing can lead to problems that you don't get with a straightforward "shag".
Why were the reviews inaccurate?
I think the reviews were probably accurate. Maybe the girl did provide French kissing but only if she liked the client a lot! That happens... Sometimes escorts do fake their own reviews but I think more often as not it comes down to client perceptions, or differences in how an escort treats particular clients, or time of the month or whatever. I usually visit girls that have a lot of good reviews and no bad reviews and where the service description fits my needs at the time - I usually look at the reviews before checking out the girls web-site.
Was the girl a good choice for a "first time punt"?
Yes, very good. She knew just how to relax me as I was very nervous and quickly shifted my perceptions of what it was like to visit an escort.
Was there anything bad about this "punt"?
Nothing serious. For me French-kissing is really a must and I prefer to visit girls in nicer locations.
Did you visit her again?
No - I decided on something completely different the next time! Might have visited again but found girls I was better suited to.
Can I have the girls contact details?
She retired some time ago.
Is it always best to choose an "independent"?
For a first time it is a good idea because you can contact the girl and let her know you are a first timer and get some idea of her personality - this will help to calm your nerves. Nowadays I tend to prefer agency girls as they are often more "natural" than the independent escorts - but the difference is slight and its just a personal preference.
How do you contact escorts?
I use private email for initial contact and that is good for a first timer to avoid nerves, but escorts & agencies are not always very good at replying to email. Maybe only 1 in 3 will get back to you and often with a 24 hour delay - but then again perhaps those that do reply are probably the better ones to deal with anyway. I used to write a paragraph describing myself but now I don't bother unless the girl requests it - I think escorts get a lot of crap in their mailboxes so can't be bothered with long emails from guys they have never met and often they don't reply. You need to contact girls several days in advance if you are going to use email. You will need a phone (a mobile phone is best) to confirm and get address details. Multimap.com is a good place to get a map to the girls location. I sometimes use email to send a number of separate emails to girls to request availability because it can be so difficult to get timely replies - if you do that then please remember to contact the girls that reply positively but you don't book with to let them know you won't be visiting them! Don't book the same girl via several agencies - I did that once and it caused one hell of a row!
Well that is all I can think of for now but if anyone has any more questions I haven't covered here then please add them in the "Comments" and I will try and reply as truthfully and openly as I can.
Next Installment: A duo date.